6 Powerful Persuasion Techniques Charismatic People use to Attain their Every Want Easily

What is persuasion? If used correctly, it’s a tool to help you get what you want. Here are 6 easy ones to start you off on your journey to greatness!

To persuade someone is to cause them to do what you want through reasoning or argument. Persuasion tactics are a part of our daily lives. For the normal person, they’re hidden in plain sight. We don’t notice it. Every day we’re being persuaded to do something, whether we want to believe it or not.

Companies use multiple numbers of techniques all the time to sell more of their products or services. Who can blame them? They wouldn’t be doing as well as they are now if they didn’t.

Everyone uses some form of persuasion to get what they want, but most people use it subconsciously. It’s untamed. We might as well be using a blunt sword. For instance, someone shivers purposefully for their partner to hug them. Or someone tries to force a loved one to quit smoking by listing out the negative effects on the human body.

The people who use it intentionally have created high paying careers out of it and used it as a tool to catapult themselves to higher rankings in their organizations. So why wouldn’t you want to use it to help yourself out in a world that tries to persuade you into doing what they want?

We can use the persuasion skills we’re about to learn to convince your boss into getting that raise you deserve. As leaders, we can persuade our team to work harder to achieve your vision. We can persuade people into buying your great product you know can make a difference in the world. We can persuade our partners into finally going on our dream vacation.

Notice how I am trying to persuade you into having a better chance at success, love, and life?

Name technique

Every single person in the world matters. It’s a known fact. Position your mindset into that kind of thinking when you meet someone. Pay attention to their name. Everybody loves their own name. We love hearing it. It’s music to our ears. We love it when people say it. Think about it. It’s true.

It happens all the time when you hear a person’s name, and we forget what it was a few seconds after they said it. It happens to all of us, and we all experienced it. So that’s how we know if someone remembers our name, they’ve been paying attention, and you’re important enough to remember. It makes us feel appreciated. Use that to your advantage.

It doesn’t matter if we’ve known the person for 5 minutes or 10 years; using their name often (not frequently, that’ll make it weird) will subconsciously make the person feel appreciated and connected to us, making them more inclined to listen to our request.

Positive language

The positive language technique is a little harder to implement than the name technique, but it’s still relatively easy with some thought and training. Eliminating negative language from your vocabulary and grammar can yield tremendous results. Using positive language to persuade people can keep them from feeling the negative feelings that come with the language, and they will be more inclined to listen to our request.

For instance:

Instead of: “Do not be late.”

Use: “Please be on time, David.”

The words ‘not’ and ‘late’ are both negative words that we can refrain from using. We also included their name for a double whammy.

Repetitive words technique

This technique is a popular technique used by politicians, journalists, and advertisers to persuade the masses. Why? Because it’s really effective.

According to numerous psychological studies done over the last few years, repeating words and phrases can persuade us that they are true, even if they actually aren’t. It’s how our brains work; they are wired in a way to believe something that is repeated often. If everyone says a certain ice cream place is good, we start to drool a little as we rush to try it!

Entrepreneurial leaders convince their teams to work hard for their cause because they keep passionately repeating how great of a future they can create.

We can convince our bosses that we’re doing great at work by subtly hinting at how great a job you’re doing. (Then comes the raise request.)

We can go on our dream vacation to Fiji by repeating positive facts about Fiji. (Positive language + Repetition)

Be careful. Research also suggests that the other party cannot be attentive to it for it to work. It can backfire if they are aware of what you’re doing. So, practice is recommended. Start with something small that no one will care about, like getting some ice cream or watching your movie choice before hitting the bigger leagues, like asking for a raise or ask someone to help fund your new business.

Linking technique

The linking technique is one of my favorites because it’s easy to implement and it's powerful. All we have to do is find something in common with the person we’re trying to persuade, and boom, we’re in! It can be as easy as “I noticed you go fishing from that picture on your desk. I go fishing too!” Or “I didn’t know you know David too!”

I shouldn’t be telling you guys this. Back in university, I found out my professor was from a certain city in Wisconsin, so I googled it and found a nearby city and some stuff about that nearby city and told her I was from there and how I used to chill at the mall in that city. She curved my grade up a whole letter grade by the end of the semester, when I asked her for help. We’re basically linking with the people.

Empathy based technique

To use this extremely effective technique, you must figure out whether the person you’re trying to persuade is a feeler, visual or listener, by paying attention to the words they use “I feel… I see… I hear…” and using it to your advantage. I know this isn’t the easiest, but if you practice it, you’ll get it in no time, and it’ll become a powerful tool in your arsenal.

If you hear them say, “I feel what you’re saying.” We should also use that type of vocabulary in our responses. It doesn’t have to be the exact word; use their synonyms. We can say, “I’m touched by what you’re saying.” Anything that generally is aligned with the word feelings.

If they’re more of a visual person, they’ll say the word ‘see’ more often. “I see what you’re saying. I look forward to it.”

And I’m sure you all guessed it. It’s the same for the hearing people.

Mirroring based technique

The mirroring technique is another we have to practice, but once you get the hang of it, watch out world, we’re coming!

Observation is key. We have to subtly mimic the person’s body language, speed of talking, tone, and certain words. This is very important; it has to be subtle! If they notice what you’re doing, they’ll probably take it as an insult or think we’re crazy. We have to let their subconscious be the only thing that notices.

Once done right, it’ll connect you guys on another level. They’ll subconsciously see themselves in you, and it’ll help you persuade them.

The top charismatic people in the world often use this skill to persuade everyone to help them achieve their goals. If you don’t believe me, search it up.

Don’t full on copy everything they’re doing. That’s a red flag.

If they raise their arms behind their heads, move your arms behind your back after half a minute or so.

If they constantly use the word ‘great.’ Use it in your sentences once or twice.

If they’re excited about something, act excited too, but again, not as excited. That’ll creep them out.

Use these techniques wisely. Practice them often, and you’ll notice you’re using them daily without realizing it. It’ll become second nature to you, and you’ll be able to spot when someone does it to you instantly. We’re here to level the playing field. It’s time for us to get what we want.